3 Months before my Destiantion Wedding! What do I still need to do?


Planning a destination wedding might be challenging, but by this time you are over the hump   Mike and I have spent so much time and effort planning our wedding that is very exciting to finally see our wedding day on the horizon.  Three months before the wedding is the time to make all the decisions and finalize the details

A.  Choose the menu for the wedding.

Mexico offers many opportunities for venues other than hotels. Mike and I wanted a private venue to host our big yet intimate wedding. Being a wedding planner food is very important for me so I paid special attention to this factor. The food quality is usually underestimated in a wedding.  People seem to remember the bar, ambiance, decoration, etc but that is only because they haven’t had an exquisite meal served at a wedding. Ours might be the first one!

We went a different route and chose a family style-setting that offered amazing variety of food. We were lucky to be able to taste everything ahead of time and let me tell you I dream about it! 3 more months to try it again!

If you weren’t as lucky and haven’t had a tasting yet and you are not planning to travel before the wedding, reach out to your wedding planner. They know the menus and have worked before with the caterer or hotel before and can provide some guidance.

I always suggest to my clients to consider at least two options for the main course - you want to be able to adapt in the event that someone doesn’t like what they are being served

It’s very important to ask your guests to share their dietary restrictions with you. The most common restrictions are:  Shellfish, Gluten Free, Vegetarian, Vegan, and Kosher. Any caterer can adapt a menu to these restrictions and deliver a wonderful meal to all guests.

B.  Decoration

You will notice that these last few months might be the most expensive of your wedding planning yet. The reason is because here is where all the upgrades come. All the things you really don’t need but you absolutely want are decided at this time. The reason why I leave decoration for last is because I want to make sure I understand the number of guests that will celebrate with us and adjust the budget accordingly.

My advice for you is to consider your budget before finalizing details with your flower designer and decorator. Here are some ideas that will change dramatically the look of your wedding without having to sell your soul to the devil:

  1. Architectural Illumination. Most destination weddings are dreamed to happen during the day, but what happens at night? The ocean disappears, the amazing buildings around you are just shadows, and all the magnificence of the location is gone. So invest in amazing lights and have an ambiance that will be bullet proof and camera friendly at night.

Our venue has gorgeous fisherman boats docked on the beach and they move with the waves. It is one of the most romantic things ever. I will direct some light to them to keep the ocean moving and also connecting to Playa del Carmen, which until a couple decades ago used to be just a small fisherman town

  1. If you need to add pops of color, your stationary is a great way to decorate your table. A great menu, amazing place cards and table numbers add to a concept and don’t cost much.
  2. Candles candles candles, They are not expensive but your wedding will look like a million dollars
  3. Mike and I are using local flowers for our center pieces, bouquets and boutonnieres. Imported flowers can increase the price considerably.

C.  Personal Items

Here is where I am though on myself. It’s time to invest all my energy and focus to get the results I want for my personal life.

  1. Body. I set some goals at the beginning of my planning and I haven’t reached them yet - 3 months is the deadline to revolutionize your body. I am trying to work out daily, cutting carbs and minimizing alcohol. Sorry, but this stage calls for drastic measures.  I am not starving myself but I am supper conscious of my calorie intake
  2. Heart Stuff. Are you writing your own vows?  I know I haven’t, but this is the right time to start playing with the idea – Our priest is giving us the opportunity to share our own vows in addition to the mandatory by the Catholic Church. I am still trying to figure out if I want to be funny, romantic, dramatic, one thing is for sure… I am going to cry,  my sister will be in charge of bringing the Kleenex!
  3. Stress Levels: Your guests will start to ask a million questions about everything for some reason calling the hotel directly seems too hard for them! I am trying to direct them to my MOH or the hotel. They say that common sense is the least common of all senses, so be ready to experience it in real life.  I have been lucky to this point but it’s coming I can feel it!
  4. Always be grateful. I just recently had 2 bridal showers and 2 bachelorette parties. I am keeping track of all my presents and I am personalizing thank you notes to all my guests. It’s very important for me to make sure that everybody feels as important as they are to us!

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